It’s hard to surrender when you’re grieving… but it’s not impossible — A lot of grieving people—myself included—have trouble with surrender after loss. In addition to reckoning with big, existential questions —Why do bad things happen to good people? Why do pets die? Where is god in grief? Why here? Why now? Why me?—we’re often plagued with practical questions as well. Should…

Take heart—you won’t be alone forever. — In the fall of 2020, I led a workshop on life after loss. One attendee, Cathy, was grieving a recent breakup. But she was mourning—as so many grieving people do—more than one loss alongside of her romantic split. “The biggest loss,” she said. “Is the loss of my friend circle…

The hidden message underneath their judgments… and what to do about it — I once worked with a client I’ll call Madison who was grieving the death of her daughter. She was reeling emotionally, and the pain of her loss was made worse by members of her church and her workplace, who’d seemingly gone out of their way to let her know that…

These thoughtful presents offer comfort all year round — This article contains affiliate links. Thank you for supporting me and some of these wonderful organizations by patronizing their products and services. With the holiday season comes the pressure to pick the perfect gift. When it comes to selecting a treat for your grieving friend or family member, that pressure…

These four great grief reads will help you come back to life after loss — This article contains affiliate links. Thank you for supporting me and other grief authors by purchasing your next great grief read on Bookshop or Amazon. My Inner Sky by Mari Andrew Find it on Bookshop or Amazon I’ve been a big fan of Mari Andrew’s work for years and had the joy of meeting her at…

These five great grief reads will help you come back to life after loss — This article contains affiliate links. Thank you for supporting me and other grief authors by purchasing your next great grief read on Bookshop or Amazon. The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck Find it on Bookshop or Amazon While The Way of Integrity is not explicitly marketed as a grief book, it’s one that addresses a common…

These four great grief reads will help you come back to life after loss — This article contains affiliate links. Thank you for supporting me and other grief authors by purchasing your next great grief read on Bookshop or Amazon. On Living by Kerry Egan Find it on Bookshop or Amazon I’m not entirely sure how I came across Kerry Egan’s book, On Living, but since 2016, it’s become a…

When grief enters the picture, everything changes—including our goals for ourselves — Picture this: It’s your life before loss. Your one goal for the day is to get groceries at the grocery store. What does that look like? If you’re like most people, probably something like this: make a list put shoes on drive to the grocery store shop for groceries check…

A simple phrase releases loads of mental pressure — Grieving people put themselves under an astounding amount of pressure. Whether they’re trying to be productive, working to keep their emotions in check, or striving to be the people they used to be before a loss, the expectations grievers place on themselves never fail to surprise me. I once worked…